Archive for May, 2010

Ask Culture in Action: Andrew Burnham

I recently attended the Holy Spirit in the World Today conference hosted by St Paul’s Theological College, St. Mellitus and Holy Trinity Brompton, which I might post about later.  Quite unexpectedly I ran into a now ‘grown-up’ member of a youth group that I used to oversee at Union Baptist Church.  As I got over the usual shock that you get when you encounter people who you remember being smaller and younger and how old you feel now they are taller and all grown-up, the next shock was that he had the weekend before been ordained as a baptist minister.

Andrew Burnham, was one of the 20 odd young people baptised in 2001.  Andrew was in hospital when I went to see him and in the course of the conversation I just asked ‘do you want to think about being baptised?’  It was this question, Andrew told me, that turned his life around and led him to be where he is now, leading and serving in Sutton-in-the-Elms Baptist Church.  For me, encountering Andrew this weekend has been a huge encouragement, and has reminded me that I am quite clearly an Asker.

Church leaders and the Ask Culture

I am clearly building on the foundations of others here.  Firstly there is Andrea Donderi whose web post has seems to have generated a few ripples through the blogsphere.  This in turn has been picked up by Oliver Burkeman writing in the Guardian, which has in turn been picked up by a few others including now me.  The original web post, which you can read by following the link above, lays out two types of people: Askers and Guessers…

In some families, you grow up with the expectation that it’s OK to ask for anything at all, but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer. This is Ask Culture.

In Guess Culture, you avoid putting a request into words unless you’re pretty sure the answer will be yes. Guess Culture depends on a tight net of shared expectations. A key skill is putting out delicate feelers. If you do this with enough subtlety, you won’t even have to make the request directly; you’ll get an offer. Even then, the offer may be genuine or pro forma; it takes yet more skill and delicacy to discern whether you should accept.

The post goes on to explore a few of the issues that arise when Guessers and Askers live, work and play together.  Whilst these observations are interesting, what struck me was how these two cultures work in the life of a congregation.

The observation in many congregations is that 80%+ of the work is done by >10% of the people.  This kind of observation is often true for the finance of the church too, where around 20% of a congregation give 80% of the money.  Perhaps ecclesiastical life is being lead by Guessers who only ask the Guessers who can’t say ‘No’.  Leaders of congregations can find themselves spending time working out who to ask to do something or give something based on what they know of the person and how likely they are to say “Yes”, which often turns out largely due to the fact that they can’t say “No”.  Quite unconsciously, the leader can be perpetuating the congregations dependence on a few Guessers who can’t say “No”.  They can’t say “No” because they discern correctly that the leader has asked them because they are likely to say “Yes” and so perpetuate their own position of shoring up the congregation with their effort and availability.

Perhaps it is time for the leader to try on the skills of being an Asker.  An Asker spend time thinking about the question.  How to ask in a clear and straight forward way, being able to outline the cost of saying “Yes” and the support and training that will be on offer in order for the “Yes” to become attainable and sustainable.  They will also need to be able to paint a picture of what life will be like, both for the person being asked and the congregation as a whole, if they say “Yes”.  Such Asking leaders will need a think skin, because the will be some “No”s.  They will also need to be prepared to be surprised, because there will be a bunch of “Yes”s that they will not have found without asking.

As I reflect on my time in church leadership with this question in mind, it strikes me that most of the times of growth were when I was being predominately an Asker.

U2: No Line on the Horizon – an exercise in eisegesis

The meaning and significance of U2 lyrics is the source of many blogs and websites and a few books.  There is a great deal of mystery and misdirection from the band members themselves who rarely give a straight answers to questions about lyrics.  So at best, what follows is an exercise in eisegesis, a reading into the text of the songs, one in which I the reader supply the framework to find a meaning that may or may not have been planted there by the author and the band.  With any such project, I realise I may have missed the point entirely…  However, I am captured by this album and in particular the narrative that spans the tracks.  I’ll only manage touch on that in this post as I listen to the first two tracks; No Line on the Horizon and Magnificent.

“No Line on the Horizon [NLOTH] starts loud and fast, almost too difficult to keep up with.  The girl Bono is singing about is my life; I am her and she is me… she, it, changes everyday, one day it is quiet, the next it is big;  my life is open to the whole of the universe as it streams across my screen.  I give myself to too many things, the love I have is pouring out of my heart… there’s too much, too many, infinity is where it starts and infinity does contain a finish.  I have too many options, too many ways, too many possibilities.  Times of the day, days of the week, seasons of the year are diffused as they are no longer a constraint and do not constrict the openings through which I can pass.  I can loose myself scheming schemes and hatching plots.  Choice paralysis is my constant headache and I constantly exercise my right to change my mind.  I am lost, all at sea, in the confusing sounds of the sirens of choice and I have forgotten where I am going!  There is no line on the horizon.  My life is full of means and the lack ends.  I have many ways to get there but I am no longer sure where it is that I am going, and yet I am longing to get somewhere, anywhere, some place, I need to get away – there is NO LINE ON THE HORIZON !”

I feel myself spinning and there is nothing and everything to see.  This is where NLOTH leaves you.  Zygmunt Bauman describes the scene as “unprecedented vistas” where the “freedom of self-creation has never before achieved such breathtaking scope, simultaneously exciting and frightening.  Never before has the need for orientation points and helpful guides been as strong or as painfully felt.”  I find myself in NLOTH; its poetry, noise and speed captures those hidden and nagging feelings that I lack a vocabulary to express meaningfully.  What is there to provide an orientation?  Where can I look for a stable place in the changing sea?  Who is there that can save me from this place?

Magnificent, Magnificent, I was born, I was born to be with you in this space and time. In the reality of a life without a place to go, without an orientating point, without a helpful guide, I, like Bono, turn to the Magnificent One!

Magnificent plants your feet firmly on the ground, in the here and now, and orientates you towards the ‘you’ – Magnificent.  It is in part Bono’s testimony of his orientation, his ‘line on the horizon’ that enables him to navigate the changing seas in which his life is cast.  To know you, to sing to you, to love you, to be marked by the love of you and from you.  Love, God’s love, is the line on the horizon; always there, being the ever present guide and always much bigger than you ever thought it was.

U2 have captured the reality of most inhabitants at the front-line of western culture in a way that the church has not managed to engage with.  It is here that the following Jesus needs to make sense, in the wide horizons of life in which orientation is painfully rare and difficult to find.  It is easy to say that the answer you are looking for is Jesus, managing to express the question is much much harder.  For those who have grasped the answer, the question is no longer an issue, at least that is the illusion they live with.  Having hold of Jesus does automatically mean all lives issues are solved, especially when you do not know what the issues are.  Similarly, if we are offering Jesus to those who do not and have not yet, the offer makes little if no sense if there is no question being asked, or at least a pertinent one.  Here we hear not only U2 offer the Magnificent answer, we hear them express the question sufficiently and  eloquently.

No Line on the Horizon is the album title and title of the first track.  Album released 27 February 2009. Listen on Spotify. Buy on itunes.

Art of Life, Zygmunt Bauman, Polity, 2008. Quote from page 87. Buy at Amazon UK

Liquid Faith as given

The paper I prepared for the British Sociological Association, Sociology of Religion Study Group Conference, as detailed in the previous post here, had a few last minute changes.  Here is the version as given.

Liquid Faith v4

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